Finding out that your girlfriend is pregnant can make you feel like you need to have all the answers immediately. You don’t. What matters most right now is staying calm, learning the facts, and understanding what options and support may be available before making any decisions.
At InnerVisions HealthCare, we offer no-cost pregnancy testing and ultrasounds. An ultrasound can help verify how far along the pregnancy is, whether it appears to be developing, and whether it is located in the uterus. These details matter before moving forward.
You can schedule an in-person or telehealth appointment to begin the process and ask questions about what to expect. Call 515-440-2273 or text 855-584-8302, or schedule online to get started.
1. Verify the Pregnancy
A home pregnancy test can detect the hormone hCG, which signals pregnancy. However, home tests can’t tell you how far along the pregnancy may be or provide insight into overall pregnancy health. That’s why pregnancy testing and ultrasound are important next steps.
Gestational age matters because it helps determine what timeline you’re actually working with. Only an ultrasound can provide a more accurate estimate.
Not every pregnancy continues as expected. In fact, miscarriage occurs in about 10–20% of known pregnancies, so an ultrasound can help assess whether the pregnancy is viable by detecting a fetal heartbeat.
The location of the pregnancy is another critical detail. In rare cases, a pregnancy can develop outside the uterus, most often in a fallopian tube. This is called an ectopic pregnancy, and it can become life-threatening if the tube ruptures and causes internal bleeding. An ultrasound helps rule out conditions that could put her health at risk.
2. Stay Calm, Communicate, and Show Up
Both of you are likely processing a mix of emotions: shock, fear, uncertainty, maybe even frustration. Give each other space to talk honestly about what you’re feeling. Try to listen without immediately trying to “fix” the situation or push toward a decision.
Let her know you’re willing to take this one step at a time. Simply saying, “We’ll figure this out together,” can go a long way.
One practical way to show support is by attending her appointment, if she’s comfortable with that. Being present allows you to hear medical information firsthand and better understand what’s happening. It also shows her that she isn’t carrying this alone.
3. Take Responsibility for Your Next Steps
No matter what you’re feeling right now, this situation calls for calm decision-making. The best thing you can do is stay grounded; keep showing up for work or school, communicate honestly, and take things one step at a time.
Once the pregnancy has been verified, you and your girlfriend can start looking at what options may be available and what support exists. You don’t have to have all the answers immediately, but you can choose to move forward with clarity instead of fear.
If you’re unsure where to start, InnerVisions HealthCare can refer you to trusted local resources and options counseling for additional support.
We’re Here for You
Take the next step today. Reach out to InnerVisions HealthCare to get accurate medical information and steady support as you move forward. Call 515-440-2273, text 855-584-8302, or reach out to schedule an in-person appointment or telehealth appointment.